Models of Perceiving the World: Relationship as Hierarchy (From Abuse of Men: Trauma Begets Trauma, P 1-8, 2001, Barbara Jo Brothers, ed., -- See NCJ-190740)

• NCJ Number: 190741
• Author(s): Virginia Satir
• Date Published: 2001
• Length: 8 pages
• Sale Source: Haworth Press, Inc
• Publication Format: Book (Softbound)
• Publication Type: Presentation
• Language: English
• Country: United States of America

Annotation

This paper presents a transcript of lectures on models of perceiving the world and relationship as hierarchy and on problems and abuse in relationships

Abstract

The discussion argues that four phenomena can aid understanding of almost everything about a person. These phenomena include the definition of the relationship, the definition of the person, the explanation of events, and the attitude toward change. The majority of people engage in similar ways of handling a relationship between two people, because they have defined the relationship in the form of a hierarchy. Relationships based on hierarchy generally involve fear, envy, resentment, inadequacy, and loneliness due to the lack of a partner. These all involve issues of trust and hope. A relationship exists between feelings of worthlessness and abuse. Most people have experienced blame from their infancy. However, people do not have to accept what another person says about them or to them. A conflict is a different way of communicating, but people can handle conflict in flowing, congruent ways. Blaming is only one way to handle a conflict, usually not the best way. Therapists and others in guiding positions spend much time understanding the concept of congruence and being congruent. Note and 2 references