NCJ Number
206249
Date Published
2000
Length
21 pages
Annotation
This guide provides parents and their children with the necessary tools to overcome being bullied and to reduce the chances that a child will be a target and circumvent the bully/victim dynamic.
Abstract
Showing children how and when to ask for help, stand up to bullies, use humor to diffuse the situation, walk away, make light of put-downs, and use other life-long skills, this guide attempts to provide children with the tool to overcome being bullied. This guide begins first by assisting parents and professionals in understanding the problem of a child being bullied, what is bullying, who are bullies, and who are the victims of bullying. The guide identifies both boys and girls as bullies and that there are four different styles of bullying behavior: intimidation (girls), social alienation (girls), physical aggression (boys), and verbal aggression (boys). Children need to understand that bullying is not normal play; it is mean and cruel treatment. Children need the tools and strength to withstand bullying, avoid it, or know when and how to get help. This is the purpose of this guide. The guide explains some first aid to protect against bullying: (1) give a child a protective shield; (2) talk to the child’s school; and (3) find a safe school environment. Parents may not be able to directly influence the friends their children select, but they can listen to their children, talk about their concerns, and work to build judgment. Strategies for intervention at various levels of risk (low to high) are discussed and provide children with courage and character strength. Low-level risk strategies include: not joining in, getting adult help, mobilizing peer group, taking an individual stand, and befriending the victim.